Are you working towards being happy and feeling at peace with yourself? Do you think that it’s your fault if a diet product fails? On what do you focus your energy and effort in your daily life? In this podcast episode, Dr. Cristina Castagnini speaks about the phrase; “I think I’ll be happy if” … “I think I’ll be happy when …”


  • The diet industry makes promises that are designed to fail
  • “I think I’ll be happy if …”
  • What are you focused on?

The diet industry makes promises that are designed to fail

The diet industry is one of the most profitable and successful markets out there. Have you stopped to ask why? Their products and promises are sold to you and there are so many variations – new and old – because they do not work. Additionally, they make you believe that they do not work because you didn’t do them correctly, which is untrue. They are designed to fail, and then you blame yourself and buy another product that is bound to fail as well. In a culture obsessed with the diet industry and looking a certain way, one of the most important and revolutionary things you can do is to not buy into their promises. You then become untouchable and immune to their advertising and subliminal messaging.

“I think I’ll be happy if …”

How do you know you’re going to be happy if you look different? A human trait is to seek happiness and validation externally, but it is possible – and encouraged – to find an internal source because it will protect you from chasing false promises and bad habits or people.
It really doesn’t matter what you look like. It really doesn’t matter [what] your size [is], or your weight, does it? Because no matter what it is, it’s [about] what’s going on in your mind, [about] the feeling that you have about yourself. (Dr. Castagnini)
The way that you see yourself is what matters. You could look exactly the way you envision is “perfect”, but if you don’t think so, then it will never be possible. The life that you want is not connected to certain body sizes or shapes. It is connected to you, and how you think and feel about yourself.

What are you focused on?

Your energy follows your focus. What you focus on is what your brain and mind will pay attention to.
If you’re so focused on the food, the weight, all of the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors around the eating disorder … you don’t have any space in your head to think about all the things that are stressful or hurting. (Dr. Castagnini)
If you are stressed or anxious or suffering, you may distract yourself from it as a way to cope. You may also become hyper-aware and want control, especially if you feel out of control in other areas of your life. In both cases, controlling food and exercise is a symptom of a greater issue, and is temporary help. It does not solve the problem, which may lie beneath these behaviors. Focus your energy on genuinely healing your body and mind.
You deserve to get better. You deserve to feel better, and you deserve to have a life where you can feel happy that has nothing to do with the number on the scale. (Dr. Castagnini)



I am a licensed Psychologist and Certified Eating Disorder Specialist. While I may have over 20 years of clinical experience, what I also have is the experience of having been a patient who had an eating disorder as well. One thing that I never had during all of my treatment was someone who could look me in the eye and honestly say to me "hey, I've been there. I understand". Going through treatment for an eating disorder is one of the hardest and scariest things to do. I remember being asked to do things that scared me. Things I now know ultimately helped me to get better. But, at the time, I had serious doubts and fears about it. If even one of my providers had been able to tell me "I know it's scary, but I had to go through that part too. Here's what will probably happen...." then perhaps I would not have gone in and out of treatment so many times. My own experience ultimately led me to specialize in treating eating disorders. I wanted to be the therapist I never had; the one who "got it". I will be giving you my perspective and information as an expert and clinician who has been treating patients for over 2 decades. But don't just take my word for it...keep listening to hear the truly informative insights and knowledge guest experts have to share. I am so happy you are here!


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