Do you get stuck in the old habit of thinking that the grass is greener on the other side of your goals? Are you putting off living your life because you are waiting on a “perfect” situation to enjoy it in? Have your opinions about your body image been usurped? In this podcast episode, Dr. Cristina Castagnini speaks about Transforming Body Image with Tara Wyatt-Treslove. We discuss unhealthy thoughts, how to break them, and realizing your inner beauty.

MEET TARA WYATT-TRESLOVE

Tara is a speaker, writer, personal trainer, coach, teacher, and the mother of two busy boys. She is the owner and creator of Transform With Tara and the Head Coach of TWT Academy, a membership program that uses mindset and movement to help women unlock their inner strength, power, and potential. Tara spent most of her life trying to shrink both her body and her voice. She played small because her body wasn't. After doing the hard work, she knows that everyone deserves to feel empowered and that they can live the life they've always dreamed of. Connect with Tara on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn. Check out Tara's Body Freedom Workshop.

IN THIS PODCAST

  • Avoid playing the “if then when” game
  • Look for the real reasons
  • You decide what is beautiful

Avoid playing the “if then when” game

People get stuck in the pattern of putting off their lives by waiting until the “perfect” moment to do something that they want to do, or know they should try doing because the timing is not “right” yet. Notice your words. Are you saying things like “I will only buy that item of clothing when I …” or “I will only start that hobby once I have …”. Do not put off your life. The grass is not greener on the other side, the grass is greener where you water it, so get to watering your life.
I knew then that my body was not the problem. My body had never been the problem, my body would never be the problem … my head, my heart, my spirit was the problem, and that’s where I needed to do the real work. (Tara Wyatt-Treslove)

Look for the real reasons

Beneath people’s desires to radically change their body or beneath the “if then when” game, the reasons for “why” that person wants to do this work sometimes go much deeper than simply wanting to look different.
What will really change for you? The deeper that we dig into that the more likely it is that something is underlying that, and that’s where we find the goal, and usually the tears come because the why is not always just to “be skinny”. (Tara Wyatt-Treslove)
What are you searching for? What is really going to bring you happiness; sitting at a certain weight, or feeling confident in yourself?

You decide what is beautiful

It might not seem like it, but you get to decide what your standards are, what you find beautiful, and how you want to exist in the world. No one outside of yourself can tell you what you think about the world. No one can tell you what is or is not, especially when it comes to incredibly subjective things such as beauty. That is yours, and no one can truly take it away from you.

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MEET DR. CRISTINA CASTAGNINI

I am a licensed Psychologist and Certified Eating Disorder Specialist. While I may have over 20 years of clinical experience, what I also have is the experience of having been a patient who had an eating disorder as well. One thing that I never had during all of my treatment was someone who could look me in the eye and honestly say to me "hey, I've been there. I understand". Going through treatment for an eating disorder is one of the hardest and scariest things to do. I remember being asked to do things that scared me. Things I now know ultimately helped me to get better. But, at the time, I had serious doubts and fears about it. If even one of my providers had been able to tell me "I know it's scary, but I had to go through that part too. Here's what will probably happen...." then perhaps I would not have gone in and out of treatment so many times. My own experience ultimately led me to specialize in treating eating disorders. I wanted to be the therapist I never had; the one who "got it". I will be giving you my perspective and information as an expert and clinician who has been treating patients for over 2 decades. But don't just take my word for it...keep listening to hear the truly informative insights and knowledge guest experts have to share. I am so happy you are here!

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