In this heartfelt and deeply personal episode, Dr. Cristina Castagnini sits down with Danielle Bernock—award-winning author, international speaker, and trauma-informed faith-based self-love coach. Known as “that lady on the internet who loves you,” Danielle courageously shares her journey from childhood shame and emotional neglect to years of battling eating disorders, self-hatred, and trauma—before finding healing, faith, and self-love. Through raw storytelling, Danielle opens up about growing up feeling invisible and unwanted, coping with pain through disordered eating, and the pivotal road trip that set her on a path toward transformation. Together, she and Dr. Castagnini unpack how shame, neglect, and trauma manifest not only in emotions but in the body, leading to physical illness and destructive coping mechanisms. Listeners will hear Danielle’s insights on reclaiming choice as a “superpower,” the importance of safe relationships and community, and how unconditional love—both from others and within ourselves—becomes the foundation for true healing. This powerful conversation reminds us that while trauma shapes us, it doesn’t have to define us. Healing is possible, and self-love is the way forward.

Danielle Bernock is an international, award-winning independent author, speaker, trauma-informed faith-based self-love coach, founder of 4F Media, and creator of the S.E.L.F.© process for life transformation.

As a childhood trauma survivor, Danielle combines her personal journey with professional expertise to lead others into the transformation they long for through her books, coaching, courses, workshops, and speaking. She is a relationship repair specialist and is known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.”

 

Key Topics Discussed:

  • How trauma, shame, and emotional neglect shaped Danielle’s early life.
  • The connection between trauma and eating disorders.
  • Why unprocessed emotional pain often manifests as physical illness.
  • The power of choice as a “superpower” for reclaiming agency in healing.
  • Why shame is never helpful—and how letting it go opens the door to transformation.
  • The role of safe relationships, community, and boundaries in recovery.
  • Practical steps to begin healing if you feel too scared to reach out.

IMPORTANT TIMECODES FROM THIS EPISODE:

  • 00:00 Introduction to Behind the Bite
  • 00:59 Exploring Childhood Trauma and Emotional Pain
  • 01:41 Introducing Danielle Ock
  • 04:10 Danielle's Journey of Healing
  • 06:29 The Power of Choice and Overcoming Trauma
  • 08:35 Danielle's Struggles with Eating Disorders
  • 15:56 Family Dynamics and Emotional Neglect
  • 18:44 Reconnecting and Healing Relationships
  • 24:44 Understanding Psychosomatic Illness
  • 25:06 Personal Experiences with Psychosomatic Pain
  • 25:18 The Mind-Body Connection
  • 26:09 Trauma's Impact on Physical Health
  • 29:23 A Transformative Road Trip
  • 31:16 The Power of Unconditional Love
  • 33:02 Healing Through Self-Awareness and Support
  • 41:13 Practical Steps for Healing
  • 43:42 Resources and Final Thoughts

FINAL WORDS FROM DANIELLE:

“You don’t have to do it alone. Healing is possible. Love is the medicine your soul needs, and you are worthy of it.”

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**Disclaimer:**

The content of this podcast episode is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended to replace professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and experiences shared by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host or affiliated organizations. If you have any medical or mental health concerns, please consult a qualified healthcare provider. Listener discretion is advised, especially for those sensitive to topics related to body image, weight stigma, and eating disorders.