How can you give yourself hope and stop being so hard on yourself? Think of yourself as a kid learning the alphabet, how would you encourage them? How can changing what's around you help your mental well-being? In this podcast episode, I speak about control, perfection, and self-compassion.


  • Give yourself hope
  • You are not a failure
  • You are good enough

Give yourself hope

When a situation goes bad and you berate yourself for having failed, you are much more likely to shy away from trying to attempt that situation again in the future. When you fail at something and speak to yourself with compassion, instead of frustration, you give yourself hope. What this means is that you acknowledge the mishap but you do not let it stop you from trying again, and more importantly, you yourself do not stop you from trying again. Speaking to yourself with compassion when you slip up is a far more beneficial strategy for long-term development because you allow yourself the space to fail, and you give yourself grace and encouragement to try again.

You are not a failure

If you fail at something, it means that it did not go well or as planned, but that does not mean that you as a person are a failure. You are a person whose attempt at something failed, but you are not the failure. Once you can differentiate between these two, you will be able to move through difficult patches in life with a lot more ease and grace because you know that you can learn from the failure, you can learn what to do differently next time, but you are not the failure.

You are good enough

It is important to be in an environment where you feel that you can thrive. By surrounding yourself with people you truly admire, who love and support you to achieve and encourage you to love and support yourself too, you will be able to reach and surpass your wildest dreams. That starting point of making the change comes from realizing that you are not in a good place for your own growth, and that is where self-acceptance and self-compassion come in when you realize you are good enough and you can take care of yourself to place yourself in an environment that values your growth, not your suffering.
Stop trying to change yourself and maybe change what’s around you so that you can say ‘wow, this is where I’m doing my best, this is where I’m at my healthiest inside and out’. (Dr. Cristina Castganini)



I am a licensed Psychologist and Certified Eating Disorder Specialist. While I may have over 20 years of clinical experience, what I also have is the experience of having been a patient who had an eating disorder as well. One thing that I never had during all of my treatment was someone who could look me in the eye and honestly say to me "hey, I've been there. I understand". Going through treatment for an eating disorder is one of the hardest and scariest things to do. I remember being asked to do things that scared me. Things I now know ultimately helped me to get better. But, at the time, I had serious doubts and fears about it. If even one of my providers had been able to tell me "I know it's scary, but I had to go through that part too. Here's what will probably happen...." then perhaps I would not have gone in and out of treatment so many times. My own experience ultimately led me to specialize in treating eating disorders. I wanted to be the therapist I never had; the one who "got it". I will be giving you my perspective and information as an expert and clinician who has been treating patients for over 2 decades. But don't just take my word for it...keep listening to hear the truly informative insights and knowledge guest experts have to share. I am so happy you are here!


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