In this insightful episode, Dr. Debi Silber, a leading expert on betrayal trauma, shares her expertise on understanding, healing, and recovering from betrayal. Dr. Silber explains the unique nature of betrayal as a trauma, its symptoms, and the five stages of healing. She also discusses how time alone doesn't heal betrayal trauma and offers actionable tips for those on the path to recovery.

Dr. Debi Silber, Founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and National Forgiveness Day (celebrated annually on September 1st), is an award winning speaker, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she’s dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

 

What makes betrayal trauma unique?

    • Betrayal is intentional and personal.
    • It affects the entire self, impacting trust, confidence, and emotional well-being.
    • Betrayal requires a specialized healing approach.

Post Betrayal Syndrome:

    • Over 100,000 survey responses reveal key symptoms:
      • Physical symptoms: Low energy (71%), sleep issues (68%), extreme fatigue (63%)
      • Mental symptoms: Feeling overwhelmed (78%), disbelief (70%), inability to concentrate (62%)
      • Emotional symptoms: Extreme sadness (88%), anger (83%), inability to trust (84%)

The Five Stages of Healing from Betrayal:

      • Pre-betrayal: Prioritizing physical/mental health over emotional/spiritual needs.
      • Shock/Trauma Discovery: The initial shock and emotional reaction.
      • Survival Mode: The phase where many get stuck.
      • Finding and Adjusting to a New Normal: Creating a sense of stability after trauma.
      • Healing, Rebirth, and New Worldview: Full transformation and growth.

Key Insights for Healing:

    • Time alone does not heal betrayal trauma; intentional effort is necessary.
    • Three groups often fail to heal:
      • Those who cling to their story.
      • Those who use numbing/avoidance behaviors.
      • Those where the betrayer faced few or no consequences.
    • Rebuilding Trust: Trust can be rebuilt but cannot be “repaired”; it requires consistent effort from the betrayer.
    • Healing Timeline: Recovery is possible in 3-6 months with proper guidance and willingness.

IMPORTANT TIMECODES FROM THE EPISODE:

  • 00:00 Introduction to Behind the Bite
  • 00:56 Understanding Betrayal and Its Impact
  • 02:02 Introducing Dr. Debi Silber
  • 03:39 Dr. Debi Silber's Personal Journey
  • 05:06 Groundbreaking Discoveries in Betrayal
  • 07:10 Symptoms of Post Betrayal Syndrome
  • 11:43 Stages of Healing from Betrayal
  • 18:01 Moving to Stage Four: Finding a New Normal
  • 19:23 Stage Five: Healing, Rebirth, and a New Worldview
  • 20:03 The Role of Food in Healing
  • 20:25 Groups That Struggle to Heal
  • 21:37 Rebuilding After Betrayal
  • 22:27 Understanding the Fear of Change
  • 23:46 The Impact of Betrayal on Trust
  • 32:34 The Importance of Transformation Before New Relationships
  • 33:18 How to Work with Dr. Debi
  • 34:11 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
  • 35:09 Podcast Outro and Resources

CALL TO ACTION:

Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

  • Visit thePBTinstitute.com to assess your symptoms
  • Join over 100,000 others who have gained insight into their healing journey

Access Free Resources

  • Subscribe to Behind the Bite podcast
  • Download Dr. Castagnini's free 9-week e-course at behindthebitepodcast.com
  • Rate and review the show on your preferred podcast platform

Get Professional Support

  • If you're struggling with betrayal trauma, consider:
    • Joining Dr. Silber's 3-month transformation program
    • Working with PBT certified coaches
    • Finding a therapist trained in betrayal trauma

For Professionals

  • Explore certification programs at the PBT Institute
  • Learn to guide clients through the five stages of healing
  • Enhance your practice with betrayal trauma expertise

Start Your Healing Journey

  • Assess which stage of healing you're in
  • Begin moving through the stages intentionally
  • Focus on personal transformation before new relationships
Remember: "You owe it to yourself to move through the stages so you can enjoy that renewed, healed, whole, healthy, confident version of you that is waiting for you in stage five." - Dr. Debi Silber

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