MEET RYAN LINDNER
Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations all over the world. After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives with clients that come with any profound, life-changing event.
Ryan has conducted thousands of coaching sessions, has led operations for a major leadership and organizational change company, and manages learning and development projects for companies to reshape their customer experience.
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IN THIS PODCAST
- Your worth is intrinsic, not earned
- Care for yourself to care for others
- You are a person, not a role
- Internal value
Your worth is intrinsic, not earnedMany people-pleasers and perfectionists feel that they have to earn their worth as human beings. They may not feel that they are valuable as they are, but that they must attain their worth by what they accomplish, how much they succeed, and even by how they look.
I felt like I had to earn my worth by doing things. I always felt like my worth had to be earned in some way and did whatever I could for people and I thought that would make them like me. (Ryan Lindner)If you identify as a people-pleaser or a perfectionist, you must detach your value as a person from what you do. Pay attention to the dialogue in your mind, because how you think about yourself often manifests in your behaviors.
I had to … take care of myself first, and once I started taking care of myself, I was actually better at helping others. (Ryan Lindner)
Care for yourself to care for othersThis is said often, but it is true. You cannot heal yourself by hyper-focusing on others – you first need to learn how to care for yourself because then you will truly be able to help those around you. If you struggle to care for yourself, then consider this: treat yourself the same way that you would treat a close friend or loved one.
You won’t be able to move forward unless you own who you are, and have gratitude for that person. (Ryan Lindner)What are the advantages of being you? What makes it great for you to be fully yourself? Which gifts do you bring to the world by being true to who you are?
You are a person, not a roleEveryone plays roles in life; a mother, a father, a boss, a sibling, a friend. Each person has multiple roles that they play in life, however, the role that you play simply adds another dimension to who you are, but it is not who you are in totality.
Most people think they are a role, or they try to be a role and not a person. Every day, we [play] roles … we spend our whole lives trying to be these roles, but then we realize [that] our value never comes from that role. (Ryan Lindner)You are a person before you are the role that you play, even though the current culture teaches people to ask one another, “so, what do you do?” before anything else. Challenge this mindset, because who you are is beyond what you do.
If someone cared about the real you and not just the role [you provide them with], if they are treating you like a means to an end of some kind and they need something from you, then they didn’t care about you to begin with. (Ryan Lindner)People that love you will understand and appreciate your honesty when you are brave enough to give it.
Internal valueDo not chase happiness or approval outside of yourself, because it is always fleeting, and it is unsustainable. Learn to give yourself acknowledgment for your achievements, and know that your word is worth the compliment. Make time to:
- Be still with your thoughts and emotions
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